“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful."
-John 15:1-2
This is a little excerpt from a wedding I did over the weekend for my good friends Ryan and Maggie.
In John 15 we are invited into this beautiful but difficult imagery of a Garden. The
scripture says that God is the Gardener and we are like a vine that is growing
in the Garden. The vine, us, has many branches. Some of those branches, some
parts of us are creating life for us, but some parts of us are producing death.
Those parts are our old self or our false self. While we live in this fallen
world there are parts of us that need to be pruned. Parts that need to die so
they don’t destroy us all together.
The world started with a wedding and it ends with a wedding.
And the world started in a Garden and it ends in a Garden. God made man and
woman and he placed them in a Garden. I think it is very safe to say, that God
was telling us something. Marriage is a Garden. It has to watered and tended
and paid attention to.
At times you will love this marriage. This Garden that God
is giving you to live in. You will love it because it will cause you more life
than you ever thought possible. It will make you feel such joy and such
fullness. And you will feel this life giving abundance because that’s what
happens in a garden. Life and fruit are born there.
At times you will also hate this marriage. This Garden that
God is giving you to live in. You will hate it because it will cause you more
pain and more suffering than you ever thought possible. It will make you feel frustration
and emptiness. You will feel this painful groaning because that’s what happens
in a Garden. Weeds are picked and dying branches are pruned. God will use this
marriage to prune you both. He will use it to make you more holy. So, remember
in those moments when you’ve slammed a door and you sit in separate rooms
wondering all sorts of terrible things… In those moments remember that you’re
being pruned. Although it is very painful pruning causes us to come to life. And
Gardening is all about creating space for things to come alive.